Chikondi Chinasyoledwa Manyazi—ndiponso Chifukwa Chathu Kuti Tikupitirirabe Kudikonda

Pali chisomo cha mtima mutagwedezeka powerengeka mutu akati awiriwo anayankhula zomwe anali kugwiritsa ntchito ngati chakemoyo m’mbirimu, ndipo chisomo chimene chinali kuikidwa m’nkhani zopanda pake chimalakwa ndi chisoni kwa nthawi yayitali.

Panikuyamba manyazi

Chikondi chakhala cha nthawi yayitali kukhala ndi fungulo wopanda pake, wolemera, kapena wopanda nzeru, koma ulemu umenewu unafanana ndi kuwonetserapo mkulu wa chikhalidwe cha ka mpikisano wa mASE, kulemera mwachikhalidwe, mavuto aungwiro, ndi kusiyana kwa malamulo. Nkhani za manja a m’nyumba, chidwi, kapena zokhudzidwa zoyera zimasowekapo ngati zosavuta chifukwa zikhinidwa pamene zikhala ndi mawu omwe amakhalabe ndi azikazi. Pamene amuna omwe ali ndi msonkhano ndi mabungi apamwamba amapanga kachidule, iwo anakhalabe ndi mkhalidwe wonse woyerekeza ndi zolimba; zili za chisomo cha mkhalidwe wake wamanja wokhudza nokha.

Panthawi yomwanso, kusintha kwa mabuku a m'manja mwabwino kunapangitsa chikondi kukhala chosintha mwachangu. Mabuku a Harlequin omwe ali pamtanda, nkhani zovuta kudikira, ndi mabuku owoneka m’masamba amapangitsa kuti nkhani zankhanzu za mtima zitsuka m'malo onse, zikusokoneza momwe otsatira angamvere, komanso kufunikira kwa amene amasamala kupewa zambiri. Kuyenda kwapadera kunasintha kukhala mzinga watsopano woyeretsa: kukhala kophweka kugula buku, kotero kuyamikira kofunikira sikunapereka ufulu.

Onjezerani mbiri ya mantha. Kwazikulu kwa nthawi ya ndale zobisika, milandu ya ndale, ndi oweruza chikondi anayenda kukhala okonzeka kulola chikondi cha nkhani ndi magia okhudzana ndi kuphwahara kwa munthu asowa. Mawu omwe adati chikondi chachikondi, chiphunzira cha khalidwe chachikondi, ndi njira yoyenera ya chikondi chokhumba.

Kenako, zofooko za m'mbiri pakati pa feminismus ndi ndemanga zamaumulidwe zimagwira kulemetsa. Ena anakhutira kuti kukweza zokwanira za nkhani zimene zili ndi mapulogalamu okongola za ‘mavuto a m’mayendedwe a mtima’ zidzathetse kusanthula kwa ndale, pamene ena ankakhazikitsa kuti zolemba za chikondi zili ndi mphamvu zovuta zimene zimagwirira ntchito mphamvu zoyipa. Izi zakhala zokambirana zoyenera, koma zimapanga nyengo kuti owunikila adzakhale ndi mwendo wosapereka zolemba zambiri m'malo mwa kulimbikira.

chifukwa chake manyazi ndi vuto

Kuwometseratu chikondi si chinthu cholakwika mwachikhalidwe. Zimatulutsa ndani amene akhoza kukhala wautchero, ndani amene amakhala m’nthawi ya public, ndi chimwemwe cha aliyense ndi mphamvu. Zikusonyeza anthu azikazi ndi omwe ali m’gulu la azikazi mkazi, mwambo kumene izi zimamveke, komanso zimakhudza momwe ana angapewere chinyengo cha chikondi ndi zomwe ali. Kuletsa mtundu umenewu chomwe umayendera khalidwe chazinthu komanso kukula. Ndi mwa mawu akukhwima, chinalimbitsa nkhani kulimbikitsa mu nkhani ngati nkhani za mtima.

Pamene anthu ambiri amasamalira nkhani za nkhani, timataya maphunziro apamwamba a kukhalapo okhudzana ndi kuvomereza, kusamvetsera milandu, m’malingaliro a chikondi, komanso zolimbikitsa ngokumbukila. Chikondi cha nkhani chikanakhala chachilichonse chikhalidwe cha kukhazikika, timaonetsera zomwe zili pansi mwa chichewa ndi momwe tingasamutsirane m’zulungiko wa kuphunzira.

chifukwa chake tikupita patsogolo ndi chikondi

Chachitikira chomwe chachokera pansi ndi chisomo. Nkhani za chikondi zimapereka kulimba kophweka, chishoko chokhazikitsira, ndondomeko ya kumverera kulakwira kwambiri. Koma kukongola kuli patsogolo:

• Zachidule cha maganizo: Chikondi chimapereka mapepala momwe anthu awiri amadula moyo, kuwonetsera zotsatira zochepa zomwe zimasintha mwamtengo. Mapepala amenewa amathandiza evenu pa mabwenzi osati mchikondi chokhacho.
• Chilimbikitso cha chiyembekezo: mu dziko lodziyimira pansi pa kukayikidwa, chikondi chimaphunzitsa njira ya kukonza. Mumaphunzitsa nokha kuti unyamula zabwino posachedwa kuposa kuona zoyipa.
• Mkazi ndi chifuniro: Kuwerenga za chikhumbo kumathandiza ambiri kukhala akufuna komanso kusankha kudzipatsa. Ichi ndi chinthu chachidziwitso pamene zolimbikitsa za chikondi zimapanda kuonetsetsa kuti adziwike.
• Kugwa mtima komanso kukhazikika: Kuwerenga za chikondi kotero kumalola kusanthula zolimbikitsa, Ulotchulidwe, chinthawiyo, ndi mphamvu za mphamvu pamaso pa zinthu zomwe zimatha kukhala zochita zosatha.
• Chatsopano ndi chiphunzitsiro: Olingana amatumizidwa, magif, ndi mauthenga atypi. Kukhudzana kofalitsa kumapangitsa kukhala mbali. Zinthu za chikondi ndi zolimbitsa mphamvu ndizovuta kuziwitsa: zikalembedwa kuti mwayi uli ndi pake.

Chikondi monga art ya politiki

Chikondi si za kukongola kokha. Chimakhala malo a zinthu zokhudza mayiko, ntchito, ndi chikondi. Nkhani ya chikondi yomwe ili ndi munthu wopambana mu chikondi wa anthu kapena woyamba ndi khalidwe wachikhalidwe: izi zikuwonetsa dziko loti chikondi ndi chibwenzi ndi chachikondi. Pankhani ya nkhani yomwe imalimbikitsa kuvomereza, kulankhula, ndi kukula, zimakhazikitsa ndondomeko ya ulemu.

M’mbali zoyambirira, subgenres za chikondi zakale zimatha kuchita zomwe zingagulitsidwe. Njira ya nkhani zakale ya chikondi yomwe ili m’mbali mwa mkazi wovomera mphamvu mkati mwa zitsulo zamkazi zingamvekeni ngati chizindikiro cha ntchito ndi kulimbikitsa. Chikondi cha chikondi chokhudza kuvomereza ndi chisomo chachingamoyo zitha kukhala chophunzitsira kulimbikitsa wogwiritsa ntchito poyamba kufalitsa mphamvu.

Zinthu za polityi zili mofanana kwambiri. Ndi unapereka libayi ya za mtima komanso kulakwira nthawi yomweyo, zitha kuipitsa nkhani zomwe zikusonyeza kusakhulupirika kapena kulimbikira. chikondi chitsekanso mawu amitima ndikusintha kwa cholinga ndi mawu okhudzana ndi mayiko kuti akhale okhudza chololeza.

Kodi momwe mungapangire yankho nthawi chikondi chikuyanjikana

Sipapereke mukhoza kupambana mu nkhani ya kuyesa za moyo. Here ndikusankha zolankhula zomwe zili zolondola & zigawo amene ali; pamodzi ndizochokera mu zoona, zimene ndizochita:

• Kuyeza sichidzakhala chinthu chachangano: Kuogolera zinthu zomwe zimupatsa chidwi kapena zimamveka kuti akuwonekeranso sizikhala zopanda ntchito.
• Ziganizo ndi zida, osati ma badge a malamulo: Chilichonse chikhalidwe chikufunika kusewera, malemekeza, ndi zovoka. Chikondi chimatha kuchita zonse.
• Chikondi chimaphunzitsa maluso a m’moyo: Kuthandiza mpaka pazinthu komweko kuphatikizapo kuvomereza, kukambirana, komanso kuvomereza chilolezo, zonse zimapanga zotheka za kutsatira malingaliro.
• Chithunzi chimakhudza: Ntchito iliyonse yokhala m’zonse za kukwiya kumakhala zotheka za chikondi.
• Werengani mukakhala kafukufuku wamoyo: Mukufunira kudziwa mmene angafunsire phunziro, kulandira zopusa, kapena kukhazikitsa malire m’masewero? Mawu ofufuza amathandiza malise.
• Chakhala chophatikizidwa ndi siyana: Kutsutsa kuti chimwenye cha mthunzi ndi zolemba za ndondomeko za chisangalalo mu ndale kukhala zolankhula za chiyembekezo.

Pulukira m'modzi mwa mzere wa mnzanga pamtima mukamaganizira kapena nthawi yomwe ena amapanga mantha a nkhani. Kenako onetsetsa ndi ndemanga yaumwini: buku lomwe malowa lidaphunzitsa kukufecha zinthu zomwe mukufuna, munthu wotsutsa amene adalangizidwa, kapena chiwongolero chomwe chinabwereza zimene mwakhutira. Anthu omukonda ndi zovuta kwambiri monga chiwonetsero cha chikondi cha nkhaniyi.

Kuyambitsa chikondi ngati ntchito ya mphamvu ya mtima

Kuyambitsa chikondi sikutanthauza kuyerekezera mabuku oyipa. Zikutanthauza kusiyanitsa pakati pa kuwunika ndi kuikira pansi mtima. Okonda chikondi atha kusamalira kukambirana mwachitsanzo za zigwirizano zofunikira zinthu zimene zili mu njira yayikulu kulingalira pamodzi ndi kusamvana kwa nkhani.

Pezani chisomo ngati luso. Pangani malonda ngati mukudula mapiko: kusankha mabuku ngati mukulinga zionetsero, kununkhitsa, ndi chikondi cha nyengo. Gawani zoyankhula zomwe zinakuzamutsira, kapena maluso omwe akukula, kapena nkhani yomwe inapanga nthawi yako. Werengani pomwe kwa mnzako. Pangani memes. Yambani gulu la mabuku losalifotokoze momwe m'masensa, maganizo, komanso kuchepetsa kulakwa.

Pa kukambirana za chikondi, mawonekedwe ake ngati chisankho: kuwerenga nkhani ya chikondi ya munthu wina si miyambo yaparesize; ndiye chovomerezeka cha kulimbitsidwa kuona munthu wina ali ndi m’khutu wa mtima mu maola ochepa. Ichi ndi chitsanzo cha mpikisano waukali wankhanza.

Chosangalalo ndi kulinganiza mwachidziwitso. Kusankha zomwe zimapangitsa inu moyo kukhala wamoyo ndi chindapange zinthu kuti podziwa kuthandiza mtima wanu. Chabwino pamtima nthawi umapezeka:

Chikondi sichingapite patsogolo ngati ndilo losayikidwa powopingidwa. Koma chikondi chizichita zomwe chiyambitsa nthawi zonse: kupereka mapu a chilombo, zoyendirira m’bale, ndi maphunzitso abwino, zomwe sizimasokoneza. Izi sizimantha. Ndi njira ya kukonza.

ngati mukufuna kulowa m'mwamba wopatsa chitetezo pansipa kuchokera mwanjira yomwe mukhoza kupanga nkhani komanso momwe njira iliyonse ikhoza kukhala mwayi, gwiritsani Endless Romance. Izi zimapangitsa zokondedwa za nkhani zoyambiritsa kukhala zokhazikitsidwa pa njira zomwe inu muzatchuta, kotero mukhoza kuwonetsera kwa moyo kuti chiyembekezo ndi mwayi zili pamodzi.