What is Kore kōrero?
Ko te kore kōrero te mea ka mutu te tangata ki te whakahoki ki ngā waea, ngā karere, rānei, me te kore whakamārama. I roto i ngā pūrākau aroha, ka waihanga tēnei i tētahi tawhiti ā-hinengaro ohorere me te tautohe i waenga i ngā tangata.
Ko te kore kōrero e tohu ana ki te wehenga ohorere o te whakawhiti kōrero i tētahi tangata i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, rānei i te ao rangahau. He mea noa tēnei i roto i te rangahau hou nā te take pūkoro me ngā taupānga: ka mutu te tangata ki te whakahoki ki ngā karere, ka koretake te karanga, ka ngaro i te pāpāho pāpori me te kore he whakakāro. I roto i ngā pūrākau, ka taea te whakamahi i te kore kōrero hei taputapu kōrero hei waihanga i te manawataki, hei akiaki i tetahi tangata ki tupu, hei whakaatu i ngā muna hōhonu—engari me rangimārie te whakahaere i tēnei mea nā te mea e whakaata ana ki te raru hinengaro tūturu ā, ā, ka pā ki ngā pānui kua wheako ake.
Usage example
Whai muri i ngā rā e rua o ngā rā pai me te wiki o ngā karere ātaahua, kāore ngā karere a Alex i te panui mō ngā rā maha—i noho a Maya ki te toro ki te tohu 'blue check mark' whakamutunga, ā, i mōhio ia kua ngaro ia.
Practical application
Ko te kore kōrero he mea nui nā te mea he āhua hinengaro e mōhiotia ana e te hunga pānui, nō reira he huarahi whai kiko ki te hiki ake i ngā kawenga me te whakaatu i te tangata. I roto i tētahi taupānga aroha whai interakiua pērā i Endless Romance, ka waihanga te kore kōrero i ngā kōwhiringa peka (aro atu, tatari, haere tonu, tirotiro) e arahi ana ki ngā putanga hinengaro rerekē me te tupu o te tangata. Me whakamahi ngā kaituhi te kore kōrero hei hohonutanga o te tautohe, ki te tirotiro i ngā take o muri o te noho ngaro, me te whakarato rongoā tūturu (kōrero, rohe, kawenga) kaua e whakamārama i te karo.
FAQ
Is ghosting the same as a breakup?
Not always. Ghosting can function like a breakup because it leaves no formal closure, but it’s distinct in that it’s an absence of communication rather than an explicit decision or conversation.
How can I portray ghosting sensitively in a story?
Acknowledge the emotional impact on the person being ghosted, avoid trivializing their feelings, and consider giving context or later explanation for the ghoster when appropriate. Provide choices or scenes that model healthy responses—seeking support, setting boundaries, or seeking answers—so readers can feel agency.
Can ghosting be used as a redeemable plot device?
Yes—if the story explores why the ghosting happened (fear, crisis, miscommunication) and gives characters a believable path toward accountability, repair, or honest closure. Avoid using ghosting simply as a lazy shortcut to create drama without consequences.