Te Take Aroha e Tāpiripiri ana—ā, āhea mātou e piki ake ai ki a ia

He riri mīharo tūmatauāhi kei roto i te panui o te whāriki, ki te mea e rua tangata e kōrero whāia ana te mea i mauhia e rongoā ana i roto i ō rōpū, ā, kua kīia tēnei riri ki te hātehi o te iwi mō ngā rau tūmau.

Ki hea te whakaiti i timatanga

Kua roa te aroha ki te tangi ki te mea he mea iti, he mōroki, he mea māhaki, engari he ētahi o ngā hītori tēnei. I ngā wharau o te reka ā-tika o te hunga kairangi, i whakaae te mea pono ki te arotakitanga ā-tau, ki te uweri hinengaro, ki te auahatanga kākahu. Ko ngā pūrākau mō te ōmaihi o te whānau, te hiahia, te mōhune ā-taea i te nuinga o te wā i ahu whakamana ki ngā kare-ā-whare. When i mātaitai pea i ngā tangata pūmau me ngā whare wānanga o runga, i mahue te tūmau me te mōhune hei mea kāore i te mea nui ki te whakahāte.

I taua wā anō, i mākūhia te mākete ā-ipurangi ki te toro atu pai ki te romance. Ko ngā tahu papery o Harlequin, ngā kōnae tawhito o ngā kākahu, me ngā pukatohia papaute e roa ana i mea te mōhio ki te haere haere a te aroha, ā, i hara te manako o te hunga kimi mō te tangata noa. I puta te kaha ki te whakatā i ngā rōpū kaipakihi i te mea he wāhi iti ake te wātea. I whānui tēnei ki tētahi ara mō te whakamā: nā te māmā o te hoko i tētahi pukapuka, i mateatia te whakataka i te taumata, ā, i tino tōnuitia te mōnga o te mana.

Whakauruhia tētahi mea mō te whānuitanga. Kāore i roa, i tino angitū te tohu o te romance: te māmā o te hoko i tētahi pukapuka, te iti iho o te whakanui i te mea e tika ana ki te whakawehe i te tangata.

Tāpirihia te awe mātāmua. Ā, mō ngā tau kei mua, kua kitea e ngā politiko, ngā kaiarā o te whakapono, me ngā aronga matatini te mea ngawari ki te kume romance me te toronga ōrite ki te tūāheko whakamori, arā, ki te wāhi o te tino mea wheako. I noho te momo pakiaka i roto i ngā pakanga ahurea mō te reo tawhā, te whai wāhi a ngā wahine, me te wāhi tika mō te mōhune reo.

I te mutunga, ki te tangata o roto i te wāhanga o te waihanga o te wāhanga, ētahi wā o te kaupapa a te wahine me te aroturiwhi o te ringa o te tāke me te kākahu rawakore i roto i te tohutohu o te wānanga i te whakama ki te whakahē i ngā kaupapa. Ko ēnei tauto a rururu he mea nui ki te whānuitanga, engari i whakakākahi i ngā kairangi ki te tāpapa o te mahi katoa, kāore i te whakataetae ki te whai huarahi.

He aha te riri he raru ki a mātou

Ehara i te mea ngaro tēnei waihanga; he tikanga whai wāhi e here ana i te tangata ki te kaha ki te noho pūmau, ki te tangata whānui, me ngā hari o ia tangata. E kākahu ana ētahi wahine me ngā reading queer, i runga i te korenga o te ao. He mea tapu tēnei ki te kawanatanga o te tangata: ko te mūrara o te āhua, te whakaaro wahine, me te wāhi tika mō te mōhune o te mōhune. Ko te mea e arohītia ana te tawhito o te ao, te papa o te reo, me te wāhi o te mōhune.

Mā te kaha o te pānui me te whakamāori i ngā pūkaitahi o te kōrero, ka ōrite te aro te hihiri ki ngā mea hāunga. He mea ngaro te āpōpō o te rangimarie o te tangata ki te raupapa o ngā whakahaere, ā, i te mea e āwhina ana te romance ki te whakapakari i te mōhio haumaru me te kaha ki te hic.

Ki te mea katoa o ngā pūkā, ko te romance he mea whakaraerae, ā, ki te mea i te wā e pai ana, e whakaatu ana i ngā mea e rereke ana ki te tangata. Ka whakaako i te tangata ki te rangimāki, ki te whakapāha o ētahi, ki te noho tahi aunoa, ā, ki te whakapāharitia i te whakapumautanga. Ka kore te romance i te mea nui, ki te mea mārō, i te mea e taea ana te ako i ngā mea o te mōhune o te tohu, me te taumata o te aroha me te āhua o te whanaungatanga.

He aha te mea e piki ana ki te pākiki ki a ia

Te take māmā ko te whakamānawa. Kei te rongo parenga tēnei i te āraelanga o te mōhune, te mea whakamanea o te aroha, te wawata i te mōhune e kī ana te hinerā o te manako i te mea ki te whakatutuki i te hiahia. Akene, i ētahi, he kaha ake te poutū.

• Pūnaha ā-wairua: Ka whakamārama te romance i tētahi mapi o te mea e whakawhanake ana te tangata rua i tētahi oranga, e whakaatu ana i ngā krokenga iti e whakahaere ana ki te whakawhirinaki. Ka whai hua ēnei mapi ahakoa ētahi mea kāore e arohiritia motuhake ki te whaiāipo kē.
• Tumanako hei mahi: I te ao kua whakaritea kia whakamātao i te tūmanako, ka whakamātae te romance i te āhei ki te whakahou. E whakakoi ana koe ki te titiro ki te mea pai pea, ehara i te solely tumanako ki te wātea.
• Ake me te hiahia whakatika: Mā te pānui mō te hiahia koe ki te mea e hiahia ana koe, me te whiriwhiri i te hiahia. He mea mārama ki te wāhanga o ngā āhua whanonga kei te wāhanga o ngā ture ā-waho.
• Te whakaritenga me te mōhune o te rangimāki: Mā te pānui mō te hiahia, ka ako ngā mātua pākiki ki te ranginui me te aroha, ā, ki te pokapū mō tētahi o ngā āwhina ki te noho ki te tangata.
• Te toronga haumārie: He wāhanga haumātua mō te whakaaro mō te whakaae, te kaha, te āputa, me nga kaha o te whakahaere i roto i ngā āhuatanga e taea ana te mātakitaki i ngā hua o te mārō me ētahi mea pāpā.
• Te hapori me te mōriro: E mākohako te hunga mihinare, e whakarere ana i ngā rōpū o te rō, me te rerenga o te rā, me te tūturu o tō rōpū. Ko ngā minenga o te momo he mea whai tōhua: e kaha ana ki te mea he mea nui te hiahia.

Romance hei toi tōrangapū o te toi

Ehara te romance i te mea mō te whakapomoreo. He kohinga o ngā tohu mō te ira tangata, te tāngata, me te aroha. Mō te romance hou e toro ana ki te tangata mokamoka, ki te tangata wāhine o te wāhine, ki tētahi toa whai mōhune āhukate, ā, ka mea tēnei mea i te tikanga ahurea: he mea pai, he mea whaimana, ā, he mārama ki te tangata whāia. A te wā e whakahē ana te kōrero ki te mea e ako ana ki te whakaae, ki te korero, me te tipu ake o ōna ake mea, ka whakakitea te mātāpono o te whakaute.

Āhua kē atu ngā wā o mua, ngā mea wāhanga i mōhiohia ki te hē, ka whiwhi te romance i te mea i taea te whakahoki i a koe. I ngā romance o te hītori e whakahua ana i te wahine e whai mana roto i ngā rāhinga patriarchy, ka taea te pānui hei whakanui i te rangatiratanga me ōna mōhio. Ka taea te romance mō te mōhune e whakaarahia ana te whakaae me te mōhune tahi ki te aua o ngā mea e tika ana ki te rangi mea.

Ko ngā tūāhua tōrangapū e āhei ana ki te whakamahi. I te mea e whakakotahi ana te rangitiratanga a te wairua me te mōhune tahi, ka whakaohohia ngā kōrero e whakatika ana te rangatiratanga me te kore āwangawanga o te mōhune. Ka toro pea te reo mō te mōhune me te mea o te kawenga e manakohia ana ki tetahi mea, ā, ka mārama ake te kupu mō te rohe o te hiahia.

Me pehea te kōrero ki muri i te mea e whakaiti ana te romance

Kāore koe e hiahia ki te wikitoria i tētahi tauto-a-tangata ki te tiaki i āu tikanga panui. Anei ētahi kōrero tere, ki te tangata me te mōhune o te kupu, ā, me te pono katoa.

• Ehara te harikoa i te hara: Kāore te pai ki tētahi mea e whakaroa koe, e whakapakari koe he mea iti ake te hiranga.
• Ko ngā momo korero he taputapu, kāore i te tohu tūnga: Me hiahia te ahurea ki te whakangā, ki te akoranga, ki te wero. Ka taea te romance ki ngā mea katoa i te kotahi.
• Ka ako te romance i ngā pūkenga mō teEmotion: Mai i ngā here ki te whakaaetanga, ki ngā whakaaetanga, ki te whakaaetanga, ko te momo tēnei e tauira ana i ōu pūkenga whanaungatanga kāore i a koe i ngā kōrero manaaki.
• Ko te representation matters: Ka puta mai te tangata whētō, i roto i nā korero aroha, ki te whakarerekētanga i ngā tikanga mō te waihā, te hiahia, me te harikoa.
• Ko te panui he rangahau mō te ora: Me hiahia koe ki te mōhio ki te pehea te māia o te tono mō te mea muia, te wāpae ki te tūāhua, te roa o te rakatira? Ka whakaputa te pakiwaitara i te aroha me te whakatutukitanga.
• Ko te harikoa he pōti: Mā te kioke i te koa me te hiahia hei mea nui, kei te hāngai ki ngā kultūra e herea ana te harikoa.

Tukua mai ētahi o ēnei kōrero ki wā te hoa e mīharo ana, ā, ki te wā o te “māta koe te ruānuku” e kōrero ana ki te kōrero. Whakauruhia ētahi pūrongo whaiā-wai: te pukapuka i ako koe ki te tono i ngā mea e hiahia ana koe, te heroes i tohu koe ki te apologising i koe e whakamahas, te āta i puta i te wā o te titiro. Ko te pūrongo he mea kaha o te momo.

Te whakahokia o te romance hei mahi hou o te harikoa

E kore te whakahoki romance e noho ki te kore korero. Ko te mea nui ko te aratohu i waenga i te arotaki me te taumahatanga. Ka taea e te hunga e aroha ana ki te momo te takahi i ngā take he kino i ētahi wā, ā, me te kore e tuku i a rātou kia whakarerea.

Mā te whakahirahira pēnei i te mahi. Mā te tūtohu pukapuka me te tāpiri parāoa: kōwhiria mō te tae, te kakara, me te wā o te tau. Mā to rokiroki e ngāwhā ētahi wāhi e hāngai ana ki ngā kāore pea i roto i a koe. Panuihia ki te hoa. Hangaia ngā meme. Tohua tētahi karapu pukapuka i te taumata iti i reira ko te ture ko te ki ki ngā mea kai, ngā harākonā, me te kore snobbery.

Ki te kōrero mō te romance, tāpirihia ki te kōwhiringa: hekorerohia te tangata kē ki te pakiwaitara o te aroha ehara i te mea tūhonoa; he whakaae kaha ki te noho ki roto i te tangata tūranga o ētahi wā. He whakatauki kaupapa mō te mōhune: he kaupapa kaha mō te manaaki.

merearea te harikoa he kaupapa mōhio. Kōwhiria ki te āta mohio.

Ka taea e te romance te noho i te mea ngawari ki te tangata e whakaaro ana ko te kino te mea nui. Engari, ka noho tonu te momo ki te mea e rua i raro i a ia: he mahere mō te hiahia, he mahi mō te noho ora o te rā, ā, he mutunga harikoa, he mea whakahihiko. E kore ēnei mea ka aha kē. He mea hātehi. He mea huriwari.

Ki te hiahia koe ki te piki ki roto ki tētahi ao e whakahaere ana koe i tō ake kōrero, ā, ko ia te mea ia, tirohia te Endless Romance. Ka huri i ngā mea pai o te rongonui o te romance ki ngā haerenga rōreka e aatahia e koe, kia whakaata koe ki a koe anō ko te koa ka taea te whiwhi me te mea ngākau nui.