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No. Arranged marriages are selected or facilitated by third parties but can involve the informed consent and active choice of the partners. Forced marriage involves coercion or lack of meaningful consent and is a human-rights concern; fiction should distinguish these clearly and treat coercion sensitively.

Authors use it because it creates built-in conflict and constraints—external pressure, family expectations, or political necessity—that reveal character priorities and spur emotional growth. It also lends itself naturally to slow-burn attraction and opposites-to-lovers developments.

Research the cultural and historical context, portray characters with agency, show varied outcomes, avoid exoticizing or flattening cultures, and consult sensitivity readers if depicting real communities. Make consent and power dynamics explicit to avoid romanticizing coercion.