Izinhlobo zabalingiswa & Izimo zobudlelwane
Izinhlobo zabalingiswa kanye nezimo zobudlelwane zihlola izifanekiso eziyisisekelo, izindima, kanye namaphethini okuhlangana adonsa izihloko zothando nezinketho zabafundi.
Lolu hlobo luhlanganisa amagama ezifanekiso zobudlelwane zobuthando (izitha-zothandana, umngane omkhulu kuye kube umthandi), izitayela zokuxhumana, amandla nezimiso zokuvumelana, amathegi okuhlanganisa, kanye namanye amagama asetshenziswa ukuchaza indlela abalingiswa abaxhumana ngayo futhi bakhula ezindabeni zobudlelwane obusebenzisanayo.
Abangani Abanezizinzuzo
Incazelo emfushane: Abangani abanezizinzuzo ichaza ubudlelwano phakathi kwabahlobo lapho kuhlanganiswa ingxenye evunyelwe yokuziphatha kwezocansi noma kwezomzimba ngenkathi kugwenywa ukuzibophezela ngothando. Lolu hlobo luvamile ukuhlala phakathi kwezindlela zokuhlanganyela zokuzijabulisa nezothando oluzibophezeleke, futhi lungashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi njengoba imizwa noma imigomo ishintsha.
Bad Boy
'Bad Boy' iyinhlobo yomlingiswa othandweni: umfana onemizwa, okhathazayo, ongawalandeli imithetho, onezinga elingaphandle kodwa unobuthongo obufihliwe. Udalula ukungqubuzana ngokungozi, imfihlo, noma ukungqubuzana kwezimilo okuvumela umlingisi oyinhloko (futhi umfundi) ukuba abheke ngaphezu kobuso.
Beta Hero
Iqhawe Beta liyinhloko yothando enikeza ukuzinza, ukufinyelela ngokomzwelo, nobudlelwane obusekayo kunokuziphatha kwe-alpha okuqinile. Bavame ukuba abathembekile, banomusa, futhi bakhula ngamandla athule kanye nokuhlonipha okuvamile phakathi kwabanye.
Dual POV
Dual POV (umbono omabili) kuyindlela yokuxoxa indaba egxile emakabeni ezinhle zabalingiswa ababili—ngokuvamile ababhekene nothando—okwenza abafundi bazwe ubudlelwane kusukela kumabonweni womabili. Lokhu kuvumela ukubona imicabango ehlukene, izizathu, nezinto ezingaqondakali eziqhubeka nezindaba nomzwelo.
Femme Fatale
IFemme fatale uyinkosikazi ethokozisayo, enezimfihlo, onezinga lokheha kodwa inobungozi obungaqondakali; ukheha kwakhe, ukuhlakanipha, noma ubungozi bakhe kuyiguqula abalingiswa abanye futhi kudale ukungqubuzana—ivamise ukubonakala njengothando olungatholakali kalula, noma njengomphikisi, noma njengomlingiswa wesifazane onamandla (antiheroine) ezindabeni zobudlelwane nezobu-noir.
Friends-to-Lovers
Abangane kuya kwezithandani kuyindlela yothando lapho ubungane obuseduze buqala ukuguquka buye ubudlelwane bothando, ngokuvamile ngokukhanga okukhulayo, izigameko ezibalulekile, nokuthatha ingozi yemizwa. Lolu hlobo lugcizelela ukwethembana, umlando owabelwe, kanye nesimo sokungaqiniseki sokuguqula ubudlelwane obujwayelekile, obuvikelekile.
Ghosting
Ghosting kuyisimo lapho umuntu emisa ngokushesha ukuphendula izingcingo, imiyalezo, noma yimuphi umyalezo ngaphandle kokuchazwa. Ezindabeni zobudlelwane, lokhu kudala ukude kwemizwa okungazelelwe nokungqubuzana phakathi kwabalingiswa.
HEA (Happy Ever After)
HEA kusho 'Happy Ever After', isiphetho sobudlelwano lapho abalingani abaphakathi befika enjabweni eqhubekayo ndawonye. Kuyisibonakaliso sokuvuvala imizwa nokuphetha okuphelele, okunomthelela omuhle kubafundi.
HFN (Jabulile Okwamanje)
HFN (Jabulile Okwamanje) yisiphetho sobudlelwane obuthandayo esishiya abalingani bephila ndawonye benethemba kodwa akekho isiqiniseko sokuthi kuzohlala njalo.
I-Foil Yothando
Isithenjwa sothando siyingxenye yomlingiswa lapho ubuntu bakhe, izinqumo, noma izimiso zabo zihlukile ngenhloso yokugqamisa izici, ukudala ukungezwani kwezothando, noma ukugcizelela ukukhula komlingisi oyinhloko.
Indoda Ephambili
Indoda Ephambili iyinto evamile kumahlaya othando echaza umfana ozethemba, onamandla, futhi ovikela othandekayo; ubuholi bakhe kanye nokuzimisela kwakhe kukhuthaza ukheha kanye nokungqubuzana. Ezindabeni zothando zanamuhla, le nhlobo ibuka ukushintsha ukusuka ku-CEOs abazibuka njengamandla kuya kubavikeli abathandayo, futhi ingaboniswa njengempilo enempilo noma inkinga kuye ngokuvunywa kanye nokukhula komlingiswa.
Indoda oshonile umkakhe
Indoda oshonile umkakhe iyindoda umkakhe oshonile futhi engakabuyi emshadweni. Ezincwadini zothando, izindoda ezinjalo zivame ukuletha izindikimba zokudabuka, inkumbulo, kanye namathuba okuphinda uthando.
Ingane efihliwe
Ingane efihlekile iyisici sokuthandana lapho umlingiswa oyedwa efihla ubukhona bomntwana noma ukukhulelwa kumlingiswa omkhulu obalulekile, okuholela ekucindezelekeni, ukungaqondi, kanye nezikhathi zokwembula ezinamandla. Isetshenziselwa ukukhulisa izinga lokuxhumana okuqinayo, ukuhlola ubudlelwane, nokuhlola izihloko zokuthembeka nomndeni okhethiwe.
Intshisakalo yothando
Intshisakalo yothando ngumlingiswa okhombisa indawo yothando kumlingiswa oyinhloko—omunye wabantu umlingiswa oyinhloko angamthanda. Bangaba umlingani oyinhloko, umqhudelani, noma enye yezinketho eziningi endabeni enokukhethwa.
Iqhawe elinemicabango emide
Iqhawe elinemicabango emide liyisifanekiso sobudlelwane: umlingiswa ovikelayo, onesimo esinzima ngokomzwelo, onesipiliyoni sangaphambili nezizathu zokuzivikela ezenza abukeke kude. Lokhu kudala ukuxabana okumamatheka kanye nokuzivula kwakhe kancane ukuletha ukuvuma kwemizwa. Bahlelelwa ukucacisa ubuhlungu ngokuzikhethela, ngokuvamile ngezinketho nezikhathi zokwakha ukuthembana.
Isiqephu Sokubuyiselwa
Isiqephu sokubuyiselwa siyindlela yokuxoxa izindaba lapho umlingiswa onephutha noma owenza amaphutha eqaphela amaphutha akhe, ethatha umthwalo wemfanelo, futhi ashintshe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi—ngokuvamile uthola ukuxolelwa noma indima entsha endabeni. Ezindabeni zothando, lokho kushintsha ukungezwani kube umvuzo wokuzizwa lapho uthando nokukhula kuhlangana ndawonye.
Isitha
Isitha ngumbono noma into yokuxhumana noma amandla noma ukungaboni kahle ngaphakathi okuvusa ukungezwani nomlingiswa oyinhloko futhi kushayela ukucindezeleka kwendaba. Ethandweni, izitha zingaba abantu abaphikisana nabo, umzali ovikela, noma izimo zesimo ezifana ibanga, imfihlo, noma okulindelwe umphakathi, okuyizithiyo ezenza abudlelwane buhlangane noma bubenze.
Isitha eselungisiwe
Isitha eselungisiwe ngumlingiswa oqala njengomphikisi noma umuntu onesono kodwa ngenxa yokuzisola, izinqumo, noma ukunikela, ushintsha waba nomusa—ngokuvamile uba umlingani wothando. Uhlelo lugxile ekubuyiseleni isono nasekukhuleni komuntu okuqinile, hhayi ekushintsheni kobuntu ngokushesha.
Isiyingi sothando
Isiyingi sothando iyindlela yokwakha indaba lapho abantu abathathu bethandana ngendlela ehambisanayo, ngokuvamile kwenza omunye umuntu aphoqeleke ukukhetha phakathi kwabalingani ababili abangaba khona. Kubangela ukucindezeleka kwemizwa, ukungqubuzana kwabalingiswa, kanye nezikhathi zokwenza izinqumo ezinamandla.
Izitha-zothandana
Izitha-zothandana kuwuhlobo lwothando lapho abalingiswa ababili beqala njengabaphikisanayo noma bebhekene kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi baba ukuxhumana kwezothando. Ukushintsha kuvame ukuvela ukusuka ekwandeni kwokuqonda, ubungozi obabiwe, noma izimo ezishintsha eziveza ukuvumelana okujulile.
Izithandane zobuntwana
Izithandane zobuntwana ziyabantu abahlangana bathandana njengengane noma intsha, ubudlelwane babo buqhubeka bubudala noma bubuyela emuva kamuva. Le trope igxile embukisweni womlando owabiwe, inkumbulo, nomqondo wothando olukhula ndawonye nabalingiswa.
Manic Pixie Dream Girl
I-Manic Pixie Dream Girl (MPDG) iyisithombe somlingiswa esivamile kwezindaba — ivamise ukubonakala njengomlingiswa ongaqondakali, ongenalwazi, futhi ozimele ngendlela ehlaba umxhwele — umsebenzi walo oyinhloko ukugqugquzela umlingisi oqotho, onamandla, ukuba ashintshe ukuphila kwakhe. Leli gama libonisa umlingiswa one-dimension owakhiwe ukusiza ukukhula komunye umlingisi.
Okuphambene kuyadonsa
Okuphambene kuyadonsa kuyisitendi sobudlelwane lapho abalingiswa ababili abanobuntu obuhlukene, izimiso, noma isitayela sokuphila bakhangeleka ndawonye. Umehluko wabo uyakhuthaza ukudonswa, ukungqubuzana, nokukhula kwemizwa.
Polyamori
Polyamori kuyindlela yokuba nezinhlelo zokuthandana okuningi (futhi kwesinye isikhathi ubudlelwane bezocansi) ngesikhathi esifanayo. Igcizelela ubuqotho, imigomo evunyelwayo, kanye nokuxhumana okuqhubekayo phakathi kwabobandakanyekayo.
Ubudlelwane obungamanga
Ubudlelwane obungamanga buyisikhathi sokuthandana lapho abantu ababili benze sengathi bayisithandwa ngenxa yesizathu sangaphandle—umsebenzi, umndeni, ukucindezeleka komphakathi, inzondo, noma ukulula—kuthi imizwa yangempela ikhule ngaphansi kwalokho. Lolu hlobo lwakhelwe ezivumelanweni, emingceleni, kanye nokushintsha kancane kusuka ekwenzeni kuya ekuthembekeni.
Ubuhlobo Obuyimfihlo
Ubuhlobo Obuyimfihlo ubudlelwane bokuthandana noma bokocansi obugcinwa ngabanye—omunye noma bobabili abantu bewubeka njengemfihlo kwabanye. Kuyisifaniso esivamile soothando esudala ukungezwani ngokubeka intimitude nokukhanga phambi kwemithetho, okulindelwe, noma ingozi.
Ubuhlobo obuvulekile
Ubuhlobo obuvulekile yisivumelwano esivunyelwe lapho abalingani bavumelana ukuthi ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo kanye/ noma ngokocansi nabanye kuvunyelwe ngaphansi kwemingcele esivumile ngayo. Kuyagcizelela ukuthembeka, ukuxhumana, nezimiso ezivunyelwe kunokuzibophezela okuqinile.
Udonga
Udonga kuyisithiyo semizwa umlingiswa esiwakhiwe ukuzivikela ekulimazweni, okuwenza abonakale avaliwe ngaphakathi, avikelwe, noma angatholakali ngokomzwelo. Kuyisithako esivamile embhalweni wezothando esidala ukungqubuzana kanye nomkhombandlela wokukhula njengoba abalingiswa befunda ukuthembana futhi kabusha.
Ukuheha Okusheshayo
Ukuheha okusheshayo kuwukudonsa okukhulu, okusheshayo—kwezomzimba, kwezomzwelo, noma kwezingqondo—okuzwayo phakathi kwabantu ababili ngesikhathi esifushane sokuxhumana. Ezindabeni zobudlelwane, kuyisiphuthu esivamile esusha intshisekelo, ukungezwani, noma i-first kiss, ngisho ngaphambi kokuba abalingiswa bazi ngempela omunye.
Ukukhathazeka
Ukukhathazeka ezindabeni zobudlelwano kuyisimo sokuxineka kwangaphakathi esiqhubekayo esidalwe ukulangazela, ukungaqiniseki, noma ukungqubuzana phakathi kwabalingiswa. Kuyimizwa engakhululekile, evame ukuba nezinkinga kodwa inikeza umfundi isithakazelo sokuthi uthando luzophumelela yini ngaphansi kwezinselele.
Ukungalingani kwamandla
Ukungalingani kwamandla ebudlelwaneni kuchaza isimo lapho omunye umlingisi eba namandla amaningi kunomunye—kubalwa ngokuqonda kwesikhundla, isithunzi, izinsiza, noma ukulawula—okushintsha indlela izinqumo nezivumelwano ezenzeka ebudlelwaneni. Kuyinto evamile yokungxababana ezindabeni zothando kodwa kudinga ukuphathwa ngokucophelela nangokuziphatha okuhle.
Ukusondelana okuphoqelekile
Ukusondelana okuphoqelekile kuyisithombe somdlalo wothando lapho abalingiswa ababili benikezwa isikhathi eside ndawonye ngenxa yesimo sangaphandle, kudala amathuba okuthandana, ukungqubuka, noma ukukhula kwemizwa.
Umdlali
Umdlali uyisifanekiso sobudlelwane bokuthandana: umlingiswa onamandla okuheha, ongathathi izibopho, odonsa abantu abaningi futhi agcine ubudlelwano ngendlela elula. Ezindabeni ezisebenzisanayo badala ukungezwani, izinqumo zokuthembeka, kanye nokukhula okungenzeka noma ukulimala kwenhliziyo.
Umeluleki
Umeluleki ungumlingiswa onolwazi, ngokuvamile omdala, oholisa amakhono, izinqumo, noma ukukhula kwezomzwelo komlingiswa oyinhloko; ezindabeni zobudlelwane angaba umhlahlandlela ongokomzwelo ongaphandle kobudlelwane bokuthandana (platonic), umgqugquzeli woshintsho, noma intshisekelo yokuthandana okuqala okukhula kancane.
Umgcini
Umgcini uyinhlobo yomlingiswa okhombisa uthando ngokunakekela, ukuvikela, kanye nokwesekwa okuqinile—vamise ukuba ngumgcini ozinikele osiza omunye umuntu alaphe. Ethandweni, bangadala ubudlelwano obuthambile kodwa futhi bangabeka engcupheni yokuba nomthwalo wemfanelo ngokweqile noma ukuxhumana okungalingani (codependence).
Umlingiswa okhuthaza ushintsho
Umlingiswa okhuthaza ushintsho uyisidalwa esenza ushintsho empilweni yomlingiswa oyinhloko—ukuhambisa ibali phambili noma ukufeza ukuguquka okubalulekile. Abavamile ukuba yisithakazelo sobudlelwane obuyinhloko, kodwa bakha izenzakalo nemizwa ukuze ziqale ukuhamba.
Umlingiswa oyinhloko
Umlingiswa oyinhloko uyimlingiswa oyinhloko onesifiso, izinqumo, nohambo lwemizwa oluhambisa indaba. Ezinhlelweni zokuxhumana ngothando ezisebenzisanayo ezifana ne-Endless Romance, umlingiswa oyinhloko ngokuvamile uyindima umfundi abamba kuyo noma ayakha ngezinketho.
Umncintiswano Wothando
Umncintiswano Wothando ngumlingiswa ozama ukuncintisana nomlingiswa oyinhloko ukuze athole ukunakwa kothando lomuntu omthandayo, okuholela ekungezwani, ezinqumweni, nasezimpilweni zemizwa. Abancintiswano bangaba izitha ezicace, izifanekiso ezihehayo, noma abangane abayifihayo kuye njengoba indaba ithuthuka.
Umshado Wokuzuzisa
Umshado wokuzuzisa uyindlela yokuxoxa indaba yothando lapho abantu ababili bachitha umshado ngenxa yezizathu zokuzuzisa—imali, isikhundla, ukuphepha, noma izinzuzo zomthetho—kunokuba bathande. Leli qhinga ngokuvamile libonisa ukuthi ukuzibophezela, ukusondelana, kanye nezinhloso ezifanayo zishukumisa umshado ukuba ube seduze kubudlelwane noma kube nokungqubuka.
Umshado ohlelwe
Umshado ohlelwe uyisivumelwano lapho imindeni, abahlela izithandani, noma abanye abantu bedlala indima enkulu ekukhetheni noma ekwethuleni ozakwethu—kusuka kumshado wesiko owamukela imindeni kuya ezindabeni zanamuhla ezikhethelwe umuntu. Ezincwadini, lesi simo siyithuluzi eliguquguqukayo lokuhlola isibopho, ukuxhumana phakathi kwezithandani, amandla, kanye nentuthuko yomuntu.
Umzali oyedwa
Umzali oyedwa: umlingiswa ophatha ukunakekela umntwana oyedwa noma ngaphezulu ngaphandle komlingani ophila naye. Ezincwadini zobudlelwano, abalingiswa abazali bodwa bezisa izibopho ezithile, izendlalelo zemizwa, nezibopho zangempela ebudlelwaneni.
Uthando Lwesibili
Uthando lwesibili lugxile kubathandana abahlangana ngemva kwesikhathi, ibanga, noma amaphutha — lunikeza ubudlelwano babo ithuba elisha lokuzama ngezinga lemizwa elisha. Lezi ndaba zigxile ekukhuleni, ekululameni, nasekutheni abalingiswa bakwazi ukwakha ukuthembana nokuxhumana.
Uthando Olungavunyelwe
Uthando olungavunyelwe luchaza ubudlelwano bokuthandana obuvinjelwe noma obubhekwa njengokungafanele ngenxa yezimiso zangaphandle—umndeni, isigaba somphakathi, isiko, umthetho, noma ezinye izithiyo ezinamandla. Lokhu kudala ukufihla, ingozi, nokucindezeleka kwangaphakathi njengoba abalingiswa benquma ukweqa noma bamukele lezozimingcele.
Uthando Olusemsebenzini
Uthando olusemsebenzini lisho ubudlelwane obuthandayo noma obobulili phakathi kwabalingani abasebenza ndawonye, izikhulu nabalandeli, noma abantu abaxhumana njalo ngomsebenzi. Lungavela ezindabeni njengokukhanga okuqala kancane, ubudlelwane obuyimfihlo, noma njengothelela kwezinhlelo zobungcweti.
Uthando Olushisayo Kancane
Uthando Olushisayo Kancane luhlobo lwezindaba zokuthandana lapho ukhelela kanye nobudlelwane bemizwa kukhula kancane ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kube nokucindezeleka nezikhathi ezincane eziqoqana ngaphambi kokuthi abalingani bavume imizwa yabo. Lolu hlobo lugxila ekuxhumaneni okuqhutshwa yisikhathi, ukulinganisa isivinini, kanye nokukhokha okukhombisa imizwa ngendlela egculisayo.
Uthando lwasedolobheni elincane
Uthando lwasedolobheni elincane lugxile ezindabeni zothando ezenzakala emphakathini omncane, oqinile lapho indawo nabantu bekumba ubudlelwano. Isimo sendawo sidala ukuvuleka, ubuso obujwayelekile, nezinga lokuzwana okuvela ekuthandeni okuvutha kancane okuhlela indaba.
Uthando lwe-May–December
Uthando lwe-May–December (oluvamise ukubizwa ngokuthi uthando olunobubude bokudala) lugqamisa ozakwethu abanezinga lobudala elihluke kakhulu, ngokuvamile oyedwa usesigabeni 'May' (omncane) kanti omunye usesigabeni 'December' (omdala). Luhlola ukuthi ubudala, isigaba sempilo, kanye nesipiliyoni kuthinta kanjani ukheha nobudlelwano.
Uthando olungaphendulwanga
Uthando olungaphendulwanga luyimizwa yokuthandana eyodwa lapho umuntu oyedwa enothando olukhulu kumuntu omthandayo kodwa lowo muntu akaphenduli le mizwa. Kuvame ukubonakala ezindabeni njengokulangazelela, ubuhlungu obuthule, noma njengendlela umuntu oyithandayo oyedwa akhule ngayo.
Uthando phakathi komfundisi nomfundi
Uthando phakathi komuntu ophethe amandla emfundo noma osemkhakheni wokuhola nezifundo nomfundi wakhe; kuvame ukubhekwa njengento evinjelwe noma eyinqaba futhi kudonswa ukungalingani kwamandla, ukufihla, kanye nomdlandla wemizwa. Kungavela ezindaweni ezahlukene kusuka enyuvesi kuya ezifundweni zangasese, kodwa kubeka imibuzo ebalulekile yezomthetho nezokuziphatha.
Uthando phakathi kweminyaka ehlukene
Uthando phakathi kweminyaka ehlukene uchaza ubudlelwane bokuthandana lapho abalingani bahlukaniswe yiminyaka ehlukene ngokusobala—okuvamise ukwaziwa njengokuthi 'May–December'—futhi kungaphenya ukuthi isigaba sempilo, isipiliyoni, nezilindelo zakha kanjani ukuxhumana. Kuyisici esivamile kwezincwadi zobudlelwane esengeza ukungenelela kwemizwa nezimpi uma kwenziwa ngendlela enesibopho.